If I pocket carry; it's a Desantis Nemesis. 90% of the time I carry 3:00 in my waist OWB with a Tagua open top pancake beltslide with a shirt drapped over.
Another vote for the desantis nemesis, I use it for a ruger LCR, close enough to j-frame I suppose. Use it daily in weak hand pocket. easy in, easy out, and stays in pocket during a draw. I have to physically hold holster to remove it from my pocket, no chance of it coming out when it shouldn't. I always wear cargo pants, I guess that is important to know, I can't say how it would perform in jeans.\
Sorry, just realized how old this post was. I figure you have what you need by now.