Scroll through the list and call the first immediate relative? You're not talking rocket surgery here.
That's bad form? Really? I must not have the up-to-date version of "Field Manual of Proper Manners and Etiquette." Of all of the contacts in my phone that aren't listed as businesses, I can think of maybe one that wouldn't go out of their way to let the right person know something was up and that is only because she doesn't know anyone else in my contacts list. I would have imagine most are in the same position; therefore, it matters not.
weren't you banned a while back? hopefully the banhammer makes a visit to you in the near future once again