Captain_Morgan
Well-Known Member
Looking to my own father, as he nears retirement age, he is nowhere near able to retire because of me. He owns a company and does manual labor. It is very taxing on a mid 50's man like himself. Yet because he had me and helped me financially and with his time through life, that is his position. Now, I am leaving to move to another state, and while I know he loves me, and is proud of me, I would neither blame him, nor be surprised in the years to come if he didn't regret having a child in some corner of his mind when he considers his finances and location in life relative to his age. If I ever do want to have children, it will be when everything save my house is payed off, and I can afford anything reasonable thrown at me. Certainly not now.
As with anything in life, there are risks and rewards associated with every decision you make. Many are nearly negligible, but some such as child rearing are quite significant. It's completely up the owner of genetic material to use it as he/she sees fit.
From your above post, it sounds like you feel guilty. You should not ever feel guilty for anything outside of your own control. To that point, I think it's very noble of you to think something like this through so thoroughly, especially when we have so many people negligently popping out kids.