i'm in full agreement under those circumstances. i still think that men should NEVER put birth control on their women if said men don't want children. after i got done having children i got snipped.If we had to "man up" and take the responsibility of raising a child, I'd agree absolutely with this.
But if we, as women, have the option to abort or give the child up, then he should have the right upon notification of impending birth to terminate his rights. If it's good for the goose, it's good for the gander.
I know ethically and morally a man is going to take responsibility in most cases. I know many men who love their children despite how they came into this world. But I'm just stubbornly against the fact that a woman has LEGAL (not ethical, not religious) ability to shirk the responsibility. It's on him because he didn't have a vasectomy or use birth control. What if he did, what if it failed? Women aren't punished for failed birth control.
Look. A man can get a vasectomy. Did you know ethically you will NOT find a gynecologist to perform a sterilization procedure on a woman under the age of 35 who has not had children? But it's okay, nay, socially demanded he has a vasectomy if he doesn't want children. Medically and socially it's not insistent women take permanent invasive irreversible steps to prevent children.
A woman has LEGAL ability to pick up morning after pills if birth control fails. She can abort. She has an "out" in every, single instance. EVERY instance.
I'm not arguing that he has a responsibility. In 90% of the cases he does. But occasionally, when you have a long term straight up I don't want kids 30+ YR old, self sustaining, non-governmental assisted, professional and middle class couples, if she deceives or is a perpetrator of fraud… I think he has a legal right to say "Nope, no thank you. We discussed it. You deceived me."